What’s Your Adaptability Factor?

Hey friends, I was thinking about you and wanted to take a moment to encourage you.

It’s so much easier isn’t it? When your day is all neatly and nicely planned out and when you have your schedule set in a way that you can pick up and go? It must be nice when you can simply cross things off your list until they are done right?

Sounds ideal….

Until life hits you square between the eyes and then what???

Maybe we shouldn’t question this…after all LIFE continues to happen whether we are prepared for it or not.

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Marriage: Turning ‘I Don’t’ into ‘I Do’

Hey friends, I had been thinking of you this week and realize we have not had a new piece in our ‘marriage’ category for some time. I saw this piece that a dear friend of mine, Mrs. Jones had posted on social media. The post was so good, I just had to share (via Mrs. Jones):

Celebrating my wedding anniversary today and got me pondering on what’s important.
(This is for the ladies. I’m not qualified to tell a man what to do. After all my experience is as a woman)
– Work on yourself more than on your spouse.
– don’t pretend all is well when it isn’t. Have the courage to have the hard conversations and do what it takes to solve the issues.
– Yeah it’s nice to see the PDA on social media but where it matters most is at home. So master being mushy in private first. A relationship with no intimacy, connection etc. won’t be strong enough to handle the storms. You’re only deceiving yourself. The rest of us can see right though the act. That negativity releases a vibe that can be felt miles away.
– Regardless of the short comings speak life to each other. See past the flaws and see the greatness in each other.
– We all hate nagging. It’s like nails on a chalk board. Just don’t.
– Don’t be quick to call it quits over petty stuff like dirty socks on the floor, forgot anniversary, tube of toothpaste etc. None of those things are vital to existence. Annoying? Yes but worth a week of fighting and years of misery? No.
– Learn to forgive. It’s two imperfect people coming together. There will be some messing up. So let it go!
– Give each other space to grow and go after each own dreams. Hey we moved out our parents home cause we didn’t like being told what to do. Get the hint? ;D just in case (stop being his mom be his wife).
– Our happiness depends solely on our mindset not our spouse. We have to learn to be happy regardless of what happens. No one wants to be with someone who’s needy and draining. Putting those expectations on a spouse is like pulling an elephant on a wagon up hill with the breaks on. It sucks!
Marriage isn’t supposed to be perfect. It’s meant to be worth it. Love covers imperfection and gives grace for each to be them selves. When we all have that freedom we can be our best in any situation. Plus hey, you’ll discover that your spouse is 100 times more awesome than you gave them credit for.

A Belated Merry Christmas To You!!!

Just recently, our church decided to come together and sponsor a family for Christmas who had lost everything. Not many details were shared with the congregation that I can recall off hand. It was brought to our attention that there were tags hanging on the Christmas tree and would we consider helping this family. As mentioned a few times, we wanted to begin teaching our child that it is better to give than to receive. We let her pick off a tag one Sunday at church. It was a very special item from a store we didn’t know much about. We prayed it through and out to the store I went one day in complete faith, but with great love in my heart that something ‘special’ was going to happen.

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I Want To Move Forwards Not Backwards!

Well it’s true friends, I finally did it! I managed to scale my hours back! It wasn’t without much sacrificing! I felt like I was giving up a baby I had just birthed! What an experience this was!

For months, I thought I had my time management down and in order until my husband and I made the decision recently to add two companies to his nearly full time job and my existing business PLUS being parents and having household responsibilities! Theoretically this was all a great idea, but we missed one small and VERY important detail! TIME!

We had not made a decision as to where to place our time! This resulted in working early in the morning until super late at night! Myself, I experienced extreme exhaustion and that was with taking vitamins and eating super healthy. No matter how healthy I ate, the stress and anxiety was causing my cortisol levels in my body to increase leaving me with stomach pain and inflammation. On top of it, from all the staring of the screen, my eye sockets were in constant pain even after 8 hours of sleep.

My husband looked drained trying to keep up with me and my daughter was acting out by smearing poop on the wall. My entire home looked like a tornado went through it and no matter how much I worked on it, everything piled up because the attention I would normally devote to it had been focused on, well you guessed it, WORK! There was not enough time and to think I wanted even more time added to my day, but where???

The resentment in every area of my life was creeping in. I didn’t feel I had enough time with my husband. Half the time I wanted to ship my daughter off because of her acting out. I didn’t have the energy I needed to correct her or to be the mother that I knew I was capable of. I was in BIG trouble, I mean BIG trouble. I couldn’t keep up this pace any longer, the writing was on the wall.

I could either make changes or entirely self destruct! With a little help from a few special friends and a few devotions and reminders from the Lord, I realized I had been striving in my own strength for too long. I had been trying to make things happen my way because I thought my plan was not just any plan, but ‘THE’ plan and noone was going to tell me different! Boy, was I ever WRONG. I had to ask myself why was I do ing this? Now I am positive that I was only doing this for myself, to see the results of what I could do.

Friends it was time for me to scale back, the stress and the problems were not worth my freedom anymore. I was in bondage in a big way and was tired of living a life of routine, but never having lived at all. I wanted a quality life where my entire family was happy and winning. This of course required me to scale back my hours, to know when to delegate, and to be there for my family more. This would require a higher measure of faith and stronger conviction and belief in myself.

God did not ask me or any of you to strive. He asked us to be willing to be used. Yes there is a message to this, He, God, wants to be able to use you. If you are about yourself and your own agenda, no fruit will come off that except temporary gratification. When we think we can do it all ourself, our plan is proven to crumble and fall apart. When we choose to trust God that if we commit our plan to his plan, He will work it all out on our behalf. We just have to be willing to do what He asks; even if this means not following the plans others think we should, even if it seems like there are more circumstantial problems or there is opposition and nothing is lining up, we must trust God for His plan and be willing to trade in and hand over our cares to Him. He will make a way where there is none, but we must be willing to get out of the way and in a spot with a soft tender heart open to receiving His plan. If there is anything that is keeping you and stopping you from doing so, go to God and ask Him to show you what is separating you from Him and from receiving all the promises He has for you. He wants you to inherit all the desires of your heart, just not your timing and your plan. Your life belongs in His hands, let Jesus take ahold of the wheel and let Him steer you. The freedom you will experience is way more worth it, even if it means going backwards before forwards! We must be pruned before we can receive more and be entrusted with ALL He has for us! It’s coming, trust in Him and His plan! Love you!

Star Light, Star Bright, And Dream BIG!

Ever have one of those nights where you attempt to go to bed, but instead you lie wide awake? Instead of falling asleep you lie awake in anticipation and excitement of all the endless possibilities? Last night was one of those nights for me, a true moment of reflection. When I starlightwas a little girl, I remember lying awake for hours outside on a blanket and watching the stars in the sky. When a star decided to shoot in the sky, that was my moment to make a wish. Remember the saying, ‘star light, star bright, the first start I see tonight, I wish I may I wish I might, make the wish I wish tonight?’ What child-like faith I had in the stars, that if one moved, it was destined that my wish would come true. If the star shot, then my wish must BE true right?

What if our faith in other areas of our life was that strong? When we are children, we are innocent and care free. We go with the flow and all things are absolutely possible. As children we are persistent, consistent, and determined. If one thing does not go our way, we get up and try again. We stop it nothing to see our dreams come into fruition. Our faith propels the ending result. We believe in what we want so much that we see it to pass. I think sometimes as adults, our vision and belief somehow dims a bit. Read more