Hey there friends! Today we are continuing the topic from last post of your finances and self image. Now one thing I will not suggest is living outside of your means. If you are someone that budgets, you are able to account for what you have. Just remember a couple of key points. First, don’t be so afraid of spending that you never do anything nice for yourself. You deserve to have a special treat every once in awhile. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, but something that you value, that you personally enjoy. Stay inside your means, but do something you really want instead of sacrificing it because you don’t feel that you are worth the money being spent or that it could be used towards something else! It is okay and is a healthy way to view yourself, be a blessing to you once in awhile!
A word to encourage you with today my friends. I want to address with you an area of self-image, your finances. You might not think that the two go hand in hand, but they absolutely do.
Ponder a few questions with me for just a few moments. Concerning your finances, do you find yourself frugal and always looking for the deals? Do you shop only the clearance racks of the stores and nothing else? Do you buy things you really want or only things that can get you by?
It came the time that I had to choose. Would I continue to exhaust myself long hours? I had fallen into the old habit of working morning through night with little to no end. I was driven by the dollar sign and the chance to make more money. I was not content with where I was. What started as intent to serve and help more people to success in my industry, turned into manipulation by a dollar sign.
My health began to deteriorate quickly. I was always exhausted and felt the pressure that what I did was never enough. I had to fix, control, and answer to everything and everyone. I had once again come into bondage and at the expense of my family being seconds. I had stopped spending as much time with them and rather than them coming before work, my work consumed me. Work was what I woke up with, all I thought about, all I discussed, and all I went to bed with at night.
Until this point I had been extremely consistent in making great income the last 9 months are so, more consistent than I had ever. I cannot believe I had been willing to risk this because somehow I thought harder and longer would be better. I was incredibly wronged and humiliated. In fact I am thankful for the ladies who shared with me from their hearts to unlock me so that my eyes may have become opened. I had begun to lost hope that anyone had truly cared about me because I was so stressed serving everyone else. I really was suffering torment with the undue pressure I placed on myself to out perform. Friends, let me tell you it was not worth it. I had begun to resent my entire life, alienating and isolating out of anger and frustration. I had become greedy to the dollar sign. This was something I had vowed not to do; never again wishing to escape into my workaholism like I once had.
I was supposed to be living a non-traditional lifestyle with my family. To me, non-traditional meant just that, deviating from traditional norms of what others were doing; working less, spending more time with family, traveling the world, doing things I enjoyed, serving others in reaching their goals, and being able to give more income than I had ever made before. I wanted guide and direct people into showing them how to be free, how to spend time with family, how to grow income, and how to gain time back.
With my stress levels it was no wonder that anyone would ever want to follow me. If I were them, I would not have wanted to follow me either. It was down to two choices: continue the disastrous path I was on OR make the decision that something in my life must change now or face some serious consequences. I didn’t know what those consequences would be, but I sure knew I was not willing to find out. CHANGE was the only option for me. God was speaking clearly to me through these two women one day and I had better have my listening ears on. He was not going to repeat himself a second time I can guarantee you that. What decision did I make? Stay tuned to find out….
Some people are under the assumption that your value is determined by the amount of money you make. In actuality, your value and worth is determined by how much money you keep (i.e. banking, savings, investments). The goal is for you to be your greatest personal asset. How you use your money should be done so in a purposeful way. This is not to say don’t ever treat yourself, but you don’t want to throw hard earned cash away on a temporary fix that you don’t really want or need no matter how much in the moment you are really wanting that item. I want you to take a moment and reflect on what you want your bank account to look like. Are you wanting to learn how to have more money leftover after expenses are paid rather than living paycheck to paycheck? Is there a certain amount you would like to see weekly, monthly, or yearly? Do you have a personal goal that you want to achieve such as a particular vacation destination or a home you are wanting to build or purchase? Are you wanting to learn how to invest your proceeds and make them grow? What do you want your financial lifestyle to look like? I encourage you if you have not done so to begin writing these goals down. I am going to share a few tips and strategies that you can take action on and apply so that you become the one in control of your finances telling your own money where it needs to go: