Where Is The Time Going??? (Part II)

Need a reality check of what too much work can do….

Too many hours at work and feeling that there is never enough hours leads to anxiety and stress. Stress leads to burn out. Burn out leads to nervous break downs, heart problems, strokes, heart attacks, self-loathing, resentment, rejection, bitterness, an unloving feeling towards self and others, perfectionism, idolatry, etc. Chemically speaking, your hormones can become improperly balanced. The chemicals that make you happy and calm such as Melatonin and Serotonin go down as Cortisol increases and causes negative emotions and reactions to things that would not otherwise normally bother nor effect you in such a way.

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Fun Then Work OR Work Then Fun

To single mamas, step-mamas, married mamas, separated mamas, adoptive mamas, those that are like mamas, felt really led to share this message with you so here goes:

This weekend was a very unusual weekend. My Friday started by not making as many calls for work as I had planned. Anyone who knows me, knows how much I like order and routine each day. I didn’t quite understand, but I heard the words, ‘trust me’. I went on with the day, and made a sale right off of our life conference call. I set the gentleman up with training, took care of the package, and made it just in time to my afternoon nail appt. I came home, wrapped up a few calls thinking that after, I would have the opportunity to make our meals for the week. Instead I found black marker and gray Crayola pencil marks all over the walls, the furniture, the bedding, the carpet, and all over my daughter head to toe. ‘This was not in the plans,’ I shared with the Lord. I had a choice either to get angry or to stay calm. With one Magic Eraser scrub at a time, I little by little, got the marks out. I scrubbed until both erasers had been used up. I thought to myself, ‘great, now we are going to have to spend the weekend cleaning, ugh.’ I had been praying to God for a few years now for a weekend that was free from cooking and cleaning. I no longer wanted to feel the manipulation and bondage of being a slave to my cooking and household chores before spending quality time with God and my family. I have spent hours, days, months praying, praying, that I would be able for once to let these things go for just one weekend of freedom. God had a plan and He truly honored the desires of my heart because he saw week after week my struggle with this and my crying to Him that I just want to be free from this particular bondage.

Even with a meal plan, grocery store running early Friday morning in tote, 90% of all of the cooking was done in 2.5 hours. Not only was God faithful in multiplying my time, but my husband’s boss honored him and gave him the entire weekend off. These two things alone were nothing short of supernatural. God faithfully lined this weekend up. When I looked around the home, aside from putting a few items away, the entire home was clean and all the laundry was done. All we did this weekend was have two solid days of constant family time together. In fact, that wall still has yet to finish being scrubbed and the best part is, I am okay with that!!! Why? Because. We laughed together, played together, took lots of pictures together. I was having so much fun until I saw the load of dishes in the sink. At first I thought, ‘well there is just a few I can do those’. I stopped and thought again, ‘no, I won’t be doing any dishes, this is about my family not about me, it’s not my plan. My job is to enjoy my family right now.’ I went and had more quality time with my family and ended up watching a family movie. For those that know me well, this is a really big deal. I don’t like having fun unless everything is done first. I chose to break this and I realized finally, I was FREE!

I got up this morning and was in the shower getting ready before we went to the museum and the words, ‘all authority, every victory is yours’. I found myself in tears when it dawned on me it was the song we sing at church, ‘Overcome’. When I played the words in my head, I realized God had a very special message for this household and I was willing to listen as the water droplets rained down from the shower head. I heard clearly, ‘this is a sign for things to come. Your family’s victory is here. Soon this weekend will be everyday life for you and you will have ALL things you have asked for. You are faithful to me and I delight in you and your family’s desire to serve me. Just like Moses was shown a glimpse of the promised land, this is your glimpse. Though the giants seem tall, you will live to walk in your inheritance, you will walk in milk and honey, keep on pressing through, keep on keeping on, I have this for you and it’s here. Where your heart is your treasure is also’. I then thought of those words and I knew it was His promise to us. Now all the middle of the night wake ups, the constant dishes, laundry folding, working around various schedules, the trials, the tribulations, its now becoming so much easier because now I see Him with me in it all and I know He has the load. In him, when we hand everything over so that it is His plan, the load is so much lighter and easier to bear. It is so much easier now that I have chosen His plan over mine. My plan for this weekend was different, but His was the best. His plan is freedom, my plan was bondage. By grace, He truly honored me and my family and I will be forever grateful for this weekend.

Now that I have received this message, I will be praying for all of you mamas because you need to know just how much someone out there’s heart is breaking for you and wanting you to experience freedom in your everyday life and wanting you to live the master plan, the destiny you were designed and called for. Mamas you are called to freedom. Please, message me here or private message me what is on your heart and what you are expecting a miracle for. From one mama to another, I love you and I am here for you in anyway that you need, to listen, talk, to ask questions, to pray silently for you, whatever that is, please let me know!  I am here for you, I want to talk with you.  I want to know where you are at.  It is okay to be here in the moment.  Please know from one mama to another, I am here, and I am ready to receive all that you have to share with me.  It certainly is not easy being a mama sometimes, nor does it feel worthwhile.  Together, one day, however, we will be looking back at this moment together and we will see how our families flourished and we will know we did something very right.  Today may be about the seeds that are being sown, just please do me a favor, don’t forget to take a moment out of your day to celebrate 3 things that went right.  Even if it is the fact that you made it out of bed, or you were able to make the peanut butter and jelly sandwich for your child’s lunch that day, this is progress!  The little seeds that are growing sprouts matter and how you feed them will determine if your life begins to flourish or if is neglected and dies.  We want to celebrate life and the positivity of it.  The more positive we are the more positive we become and so does life around us!  We only get one shot at being a mama, so every moment in time embrace it and make it count.  I believe in you and your excellence and desire to be the best mama you can be!  You got this and I can’t wait to see your journey unfold as you embrace your families and grow!  I am proud of the mama you are and are becoming!