Marriage: Turning ‘I Don’t’ into ‘I Do’

Hey friends, I had been thinking of you this week and realize we have not had a new piece in our ‘marriage’ category for some time. I saw this piece that a dear friend of mine, Mrs. Jones had posted on social media. The post was so good, I just had to share (via Mrs. Jones):

Celebrating my wedding anniversary today and got me pondering on what’s important.
(This is for the ladies. I’m not qualified to tell a man what to do. After all my experience is as a woman)
– Work on yourself more than on your spouse.
– don’t pretend all is well when it isn’t. Have the courage to have the hard conversations and do what it takes to solve the issues.
– Yeah it’s nice to see the PDA on social media but where it matters most is at home. So master being mushy in private first. A relationship with no intimacy, connection etc. won’t be strong enough to handle the storms. You’re only deceiving yourself. The rest of us can see right though the act. That negativity releases a vibe that can be felt miles away.
– Regardless of the short comings speak life to each other. See past the flaws and see the greatness in each other.
– We all hate nagging. It’s like nails on a chalk board. Just don’t.
– Don’t be quick to call it quits over petty stuff like dirty socks on the floor, forgot anniversary, tube of toothpaste etc. None of those things are vital to existence. Annoying? Yes but worth a week of fighting and years of misery? No.
– Learn to forgive. It’s two imperfect people coming together. There will be some messing up. So let it go!
– Give each other space to grow and go after each own dreams. Hey we moved out our parents home cause we didn’t like being told what to do. Get the hint? ;D just in case (stop being his mom be his wife).
– Our happiness depends solely on our mindset not our spouse. We have to learn to be happy regardless of what happens. No one wants to be with someone who’s needy and draining. Putting those expectations on a spouse is like pulling an elephant on a wagon up hill with the breaks on. It sucks!
Marriage isn’t supposed to be perfect. It’s meant to be worth it. Love covers imperfection and gives grace for each to be them selves. When we all have that freedom we can be our best in any situation. Plus hey, you’ll discover that your spouse is 100 times more awesome than you gave them credit for.

Slow It Down…What Are You In A Hurry For???

Hello there friends it’s good to be with you today! I just wanted to be transparent and share a little something with you that I think may just help someone to overcome today.

Recently, I had a little change and shift in one of the businesses my husband and I own. I had been making calls consistently. I had normal set business hours of operation. I even had a team of people that I was encouraging weekly and helping them to those next steps. Yet, I couldn’t figure out why the results had slowed down a bit. I knew I was following the process and I had even been plugging into the team training calls. I was completely stumped as to what this could have possibly been.

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A Simple Key To A Prosperous Life….

The key to serving the Lord in excellence and prospering where you are planted, advancing for the kingdom of God is simple. There are 5 very important areas that must be kept in their proper order. Remember, our Lord is a lord of order and He doesn’t do anything out of order. So in serving him, we must remember His true order and abide in it. The order is this:

1) Keep God FIRST. In every step you take, remember to pray to the Lord asking him for guidance, wisdom, and direction. If you are single, submit yourself completely to the Lord. If you are married, discuss each step in the area you are needing direction and pray to the Lord together, each step of the way. Whether single, married, or with children, honor the Lord by learning his word, making time to listen, to pray, to read, and to apply His word. Be willing to be still and listen or to lend a hand to someone in a troubled time. If you listen He will guide your step in all other areas listed below and He will prosper you where you are at.

2) Second, comes your spouse if married. If single with children, they will come next. If single, then work will come next. Make time for your spouse, they need to be honored, special, and made to feel important. When they get home or you get home, greet them, love on them, and be willing to spend time re-connecting, talking, praying, and loving on one another. It is important to work on your relationship whether married or dating.

3) If you are married or single with children, make sure they are made to feel special, honored, and important. Schedule quality time with your children. Spend time doing what they want to do, not necessarily what you are wanting to get done around home or running errands. Make your activity fun! Do something you don’t normally do together. If it is a normal activity make sure it is something you can enjoy together. Also, make sure from time to time to spend one on one quality time with each child. Children really value that connection and one on one time you have with them. Do not put work first before them; especially after you promised you would spend time with them. Model to them how to keep your promise, they will value, respect, and appreciate you more because you honored them first.

4) Next, comes your work. When you are working, be diligent with the time you are given. When you can be trusted with the little things, you will be made ruler over much more, this includes responsibilities. You were meant to work and to prosper. If you are not giving it your all, then you will reap that. Make sure what you sow in the ground is worth reaping; this includes how you manage time, how you honor your boss, or others that you work with, managing teams of people etc. Do your work in a way that the Lord would be pleased with.

5) Enjoy extra-curricular activities. God designed you to enjoy life and gave you permission to have fun! We all need to rejuvenate every once in awhile or we become worn out in repetitive motion in our everyday lives and aren’t giving life it’s best shot. Things we enjoy doing keep us balanced and passionate about life. Without activities we enjoy, we would lose our zeal and passion. Having fun helps us to lead a higher quality of life and appreciate the goodness that God blesses us with!

If we follow this order and keep Him first, in these areas, we will be blessed beyond measure as mentioned in the book of Malachi and so many other chapters, verses, etc.

God bless you, I believe in you!