Priorities: Does The Wind Have Your Sail? (Part I)

Hey friends, how many of you are feeling challenged by priorities and obligations? I know we have talked about time management before and how to best use the time you have, however, I’d like to expand on priorities.

Why are priorities important? Priorities allow you to not only manage and balance your time, but they help you stay focused on what’s most important.

Remember, you are not all things to all people nor should you be. If this is you and you feel you have to fix, correct, and be there for everyone, this is false burden bearing; meaning you are carry luggage and other peoples’ burdens on your shoulders and it’s weighing you down! First, I must add false responsibility will never get you ahead. In order to even prioritize, I encourage you to give those roles back to those that you took it from and guide and direct others to individuals that can either assist them or to resources that will guide them accordingly. We must not fish for others, but teach them how to fish and be self-sufficient; this means taking care of you and modeling a healthy relationship and lifestyle and working on your own to be the best you can be!

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The Importance Of Grace

As mamas, sometimes we are on a huge time table.  We look around our homes and see the mess.  Getting up in the mornings, we see everything first that didn’t get done the night before.  The laundry may be exploding out of the hamper and out of the washer and dryer.  The dishes may have piled because they weren’t rinsed the night before.  Last night’s dinner may have forgotten to be put in the fridge.  On the same note, you realize that breakfast has yet to be made for your child and you are not sure what you are going to make.  You may even have a few appointments in the morning and you are wondering if you are going to make it into your office in time or run out the door in time.  Usually when this happens your child has an accident and you have to change the whole outfit OR better yet, you get to the car and realize you left a few items you needed in the house.

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I Want To Move Forwards Not Backwards!

Well it’s true friends, I finally did it! I managed to scale my hours back! It wasn’t without much sacrificing! I felt like I was giving up a baby I had just birthed! What an experience this was!

For months, I thought I had my time management down and in order until my husband and I made the decision recently to add two companies to his nearly full time job and my existing business PLUS being parents and having household responsibilities! Theoretically this was all a great idea, but we missed one small and VERY important detail! TIME!

We had not made a decision as to where to place our time! This resulted in working early in the morning until super late at night! Myself, I experienced extreme exhaustion and that was with taking vitamins and eating super healthy. No matter how healthy I ate, the stress and anxiety was causing my cortisol levels in my body to increase leaving me with stomach pain and inflammation. On top of it, from all the staring of the screen, my eye sockets were in constant pain even after 8 hours of sleep.

My husband looked drained trying to keep up with me and my daughter was acting out by smearing poop on the wall. My entire home looked like a tornado went through it and no matter how much I worked on it, everything piled up because the attention I would normally devote to it had been focused on, well you guessed it, WORK! There was not enough time and to think I wanted even more time added to my day, but where???

The resentment in every area of my life was creeping in. I didn’t feel I had enough time with my husband. Half the time I wanted to ship my daughter off because of her acting out. I didn’t have the energy I needed to correct her or to be the mother that I knew I was capable of. I was in BIG trouble, I mean BIG trouble. I couldn’t keep up this pace any longer, the writing was on the wall.

I could either make changes or entirely self destruct! With a little help from a few special friends and a few devotions and reminders from the Lord, I realized I had been striving in my own strength for too long. I had been trying to make things happen my way because I thought my plan was not just any plan, but ‘THE’ plan and noone was going to tell me different! Boy, was I ever WRONG. I had to ask myself why was I do ing this? Now I am positive that I was only doing this for myself, to see the results of what I could do.

Friends it was time for me to scale back, the stress and the problems were not worth my freedom anymore. I was in bondage in a big way and was tired of living a life of routine, but never having lived at all. I wanted a quality life where my entire family was happy and winning. This of course required me to scale back my hours, to know when to delegate, and to be there for my family more. This would require a higher measure of faith and stronger conviction and belief in myself.

God did not ask me or any of you to strive. He asked us to be willing to be used. Yes there is a message to this, He, God, wants to be able to use you. If you are about yourself and your own agenda, no fruit will come off that except temporary gratification. When we think we can do it all ourself, our plan is proven to crumble and fall apart. When we choose to trust God that if we commit our plan to his plan, He will work it all out on our behalf. We just have to be willing to do what He asks; even if this means not following the plans others think we should, even if it seems like there are more circumstantial problems or there is opposition and nothing is lining up, we must trust God for His plan and be willing to trade in and hand over our cares to Him. He will make a way where there is none, but we must be willing to get out of the way and in a spot with a soft tender heart open to receiving His plan. If there is anything that is keeping you and stopping you from doing so, go to God and ask Him to show you what is separating you from Him and from receiving all the promises He has for you. He wants you to inherit all the desires of your heart, just not your timing and your plan. Your life belongs in His hands, let Jesus take ahold of the wheel and let Him steer you. The freedom you will experience is way more worth it, even if it means going backwards before forwards! We must be pruned before we can receive more and be entrusted with ALL He has for us! It’s coming, trust in Him and His plan! Love you!

Lettuce Be A Life Of Magnetic Influence

My friends, I was thinking about you all the other day as I was scanning over a bed of lettuce lettucethat I was using to prepare a delicious salad that I had acquired a recipe for. As I inspected the head of salad I noticed some pieces that had gone bad and wouldn’t be suitable for consumption. For a moment, I thought to myself how wonderful an idea that I do not put something in my mouth that I do not wish to be there. It felt great to have that sense of ‘control’ of telling my body what it should and should not be indulging. The mind is a powerful thing, but what is even more powerful is the action of doing or not doing. I am sure many of you can understand that.

Maybe there is an area that you would prefer to be in more control over, it might be your time, your balance, your body, or your money. Speaking from personal experience, the area that i am working on gaining the greatest control over is my body. For years I had accepted the fact that maybe I had been built to be big. I had almost come to accept this grim reality that it was ‘ok’ to allow myself to pack on the lbs. Though I have never been grossly overweight, I had doubt and disbelief that I could ever lose weight. Heck, I still had some weight on me from having my first daughter, how would I ever gain control over my body? Did I even have the discipline it would require of me to tip the scales the opposite way?

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Addressed To The ‘Stay-At-Home’ and ‘Wish She Were Home’ Mom

Let me start this off by saying there are many, many moms that love being a ‘stay at home mom’. This is the ‘type’ of mom who wakes up early in the morning ready to conquer the superday. She may have a 6 course meal for breakfast on the table, laundry going, and take pride and joy in having prepared 4 sack lunches for the day. This ‘type’ of mom has the chore list completed before she writes it and may be considered the ‘she-hero’ housewife.

Even if this were the case, I believe that there are certain mom’s that do all of these things, but still feel they came up short somehow. There is a lingering feeling of worthlessness that plagues them. Their day is a chore for them, no matter their attitude. They convince themselves that they are happy to serve their husband and children. This is true! This wife may be happy serving her family, but fulfillment is not just about serving or being happy.

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